Should Women Pursue Men?
Have you ever wondered whether or not you should pursue the guy? I was recently asked this question below..
“I was double dared to ask more than 10 men whether men liked to be chased but to do so without the presence of their wives and girlfriends so they will give me an honest answer. This male friend of mine told me that contrary to the common beliefs, men like to be chased. Can you please tell me honestly which is it please?!!”
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Here’s my answer to the above question…
Men DON’T like to be chased– they LOVE to be chased! I’m mean, c’mon, who doesn’t, right? We all like to be desired. We all like to know someone else out there thinks we are the cat’s pajamas.
And, sometimes it works out. She pursues him, gets his number…and they live happily ever after.
Here’s the problem…
More often than not, the feel-good boost he gets by being “asked out” gets squashed within hours by a biological backlash of she-male chemicals.
In other words, the “high” he gets from you asking him out will only last until his internal romance meter realizes that he is now in the “feminine” position (aka: being the chasee)…and this kills the attraction.
When you ask a guy out, you become the masculine. You’re chasing him. This deflates any anticipation in the relationship he might have. (Which, by the way, is essential fuel to keep his interest until you both meet again.) You’ve robbed him of the ability to “win” you over, which is a very important ingredient to his process of falling in love.
Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be passive. Quite the contrary. As you may know, feminine energy is strong, powerful, and ever-pulling.
There’s a magic formula for pursuing him, without him even knowing. This is super feminine-ninja-style.
Here’s how you can pursue him and stay in the feminine energy…
Step 1. Create The Opening with S.A.S. (
Seeing And Smiles)
Every guy has been traumatized by crossing the room to talk to a woman he thought was looking at him, only to find himself brutally rejected and having to endure the W.O.S. (Walk of Shame) back to his table with all his buddies watching. Therefore, men can be a bit hesitant to approach women. Make eye contact for a good three seconds and give him that sexy smile you know how to do so well. Make the opening to approach you obvious. This will let him know you’re definitely interested, while keeping you in the sexy, feminine energy.
Step 2. Shake Off The F.O.F. (Fortress of Females)
For a man, trying to break into a circle of female friends who are having a private conversation is a terrifying experience. In fact, men take seminars and spend thousands of dollars to learn the art of “opening a conversation”. It’s definitely a tough thing to do. You gotta leave your fortress of females, for a least a few minutes. Go get a drink, or take a stroll around the bar. In other words, give him a good shot to be able to talk to you.
Step 3. Get In His C.O.C. (Circumference of Conversation)
Sometimes getting eye contact can be difficult. If this is the case, get into his “Circumference Of Conversation”. What this means is, go stand close enough for him to be able to talk to you. You can even open a conversation with him by asking him a question, e.g.: What time is it? What’s the score of the game? Who is going to win?. Men LOVE to have their thoughts respected, and asking him a question he can answer works like magic.
Usually, that’s all it will take for him to strike up a conversation with you. At this point, he’ll know you’re interested, and if he’s interested in you he’ll ask you out.
The most critical part of the magic feminine formula comes next…
Step 4. Let Him Make The Move
Whatever you do, Do NOT ask him out. I repeat, do NOT ask for his number. If you want to be the feminine, let him lead. Let him ask for your number. If he doesn’t ask you out, he’s not interested. And that’s okay because he probably wasn’t the right guy for you. Chances are he will ask you out and you’ll have set yourself up in the power feminine position and he will love pursuing you.
Remember, your man is out there looking for you right now. He is closer than you think. He wants to be with you more than you know. Give him an opening. Give him the green light.
The more you do, the faster you will meet the man of your dreams.
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